Start loving, learn to love yourself

　　[A group member says: In the group many people told me that they love me and I was seeing that I don’t love myself enough.] 

　　一个团体成员说：团体里很多人跟我说他们爱我，我看到我爱自己爱的不够。

　　奥修（OSHO）：

　　There are very few people in the world who love themselves – only very rare people – so relax! You are a normal person; very abnormal people love themselves! 

　　世上只有极少爱自己的人——只有非常罕见的人——所以放松！你是个正常人；极不正常的人才爱自己！

　　eople don’t become aware of it but this group has made you aware of it. You have a clear-cut un: that’s why it became very very crystal-clear to you that you don’t love yourself. Even others could see it mm? It is on your face written on your face that you don’t love yourself. You are an honest person. 

　　人们并没有意识到这一点，但这个团体让你意识到了。智力上你有了清晰的了解：那就是为什么你很清楚，你并不爱自己。连别人都看得出，嗯？它就在你脸上，写在你脸上，你不爱自己。你是个诚实的人。

　　It is very rarely that people love themselves but it is not written on their faces. They keep two books: their real book is hidden the unreal book is on their face. You don’t have two books you have a single book. You don’t make entries so it is written on your face. It is good. You are a s person and with a s person there is a way. With the there is no way. 

　　人们爱自己，这非常罕见，但它没写在人们脸上。他们有两本书：他们真正的书被藏了起来，假书摆在他们脸上。你并没有两本书，你只有一本。你不开两个入口，所以它写在了你脸上。这很好。你是个诚实的人，对于诚实的人来说，办法是有的。对于不诚实的人来说，没办法。

　　If you recognize the fact that you don’t love yourself then there is a poss that you can... because this is sheer stupidity not to love oneself. If you don’t love yourself then who is going to? If not you then who? And if not now when? 

　　如果你承认了事实——你并不爱自己，那么你还有能爱的可能……因为不爱自己简直愚蠢透顶。如果你不爱你自己，那谁去爱？如果不是你，那是谁？如果不是现在，那什么时候？

　　The first and the most fun thing is to love yourself – then others will love they will follow but nobody is going to break the ice if you don’t love yourself. But it is good that you have un it. 

　　最重要、最根本的事情是爱你自己——这样别人才会爱，他们才会跟随，但是如果你不爱自己，没人会去打破那层冰。但很好，你明白了这一点。

　　o start loving learn to love yourself be more soft with yourself. You have been taught to be hard. 

　　所以开始爱，学习爱你自己，对自己更温柔。你一直被教导要冷酷无情。

　　You have tried to yourself you have tried to be in control. But it is there; it will come up. 

　　你试图对自己严加管教，你试图保持掌控。但它就在那里，它会浮现出来。

　　From this moment start loving yourself be more tender to yourself. Don’t be hard don’t be cruel! Give a little joy to your body to your mind. It is your mind and you have to take care of it. It is your body; treat it as a temple. An things make much .... 

　　从这一刻起，开始爱你自己，对自己更温柔。别冷酷，别残忍！给你的身体、你的头脑/心一些喜悦。它是你的头脑，你必须照顾它。它是你的身体，把它视为一座庙宇。小事情带来大不同……

　　You take a shower every day: you can do it very unconcernedly you can do it very lovingly. You can feel the water falling on the body. You can enjoy the feel the freshness the joy that comes to the body – how every cell of the body starts feeling fresh. You can enjoy it is your body: your body is feeling good. When you eat food you can just go on stuffing like a duty.... 

　　你每天洗澡：你可以很不在意的洗，你可以充满爱的洗。你可以感受水洒落在身体上。你可以享受那个感觉，那种新鲜，来到身体上的喜悦——身体的每一个细胞是如何开始感到新鲜的。你可以享受它是你的身体：你的身体现在感觉很好。吃东西时，你可以继续往嘴里塞东西，就像一种责任……

　　From this moment start doing just small things mm? an three weeks you will see that that thing which was hidden has come up. 

　　从这一刻起，开始做一些小事情，嗯？不出三周，你就会看到被隐藏于内的事情浮现了出来。

　　[Osho re what he has sa before that we are con from an early age to love everyone – parents s teachers priests – but not to love ourselves.] 

　　[奥修重申了他之前经常说的，我们从小就被制约要去爱所有人——父母、兄弟姐妹、老师、牧师——但别爱我们自己。]

　　o start loving yourself and if somebody loves you... an are so many people to love! There are two needs which are love needs: one is to love somebody and one is to be loved by somebody – and both are basic needs. Love is a -edge: it is not only that somebody should love you; it is also that you should love somebody. 

　　所以开始爱你自己，如果有人爱你……有这么多人可以去爱！有两种需要是爱的需要：一种是爱别人，一种是被别人爱——两者都是基本需要。爱是一把双刃剑：不光是别人应该爱你，你也应该爱别人。

　　o start loving yourself and if somebody comes an the in loving you feel grateful and don’t think that she or he is wrong. You are wrong because go creates anybody who is not worthy! Worth is in life. You are a worthy man you are an end unto yourself. 

　　所以开始爱你自己，如果有人前来，主动来爱你，要感激，别认为他/她错了。你错了，因为神从不创造任何不配得的人！价值是生命所固有的。你是个值得的人，你本身就是个终点。（注：这里的“神”，你可以理解为道、法、宇宙、老天……）

　　Treat yourself really well. Join the music group in the night dance suf. Very good! The group has helped you. 

　　真的善待自己。参加晚上的音乐团体，舞蹈，苏菲舞蹈。非常好！那个团体已经帮到了你。

　　[The sannyasin then says: I have been almost all my life and that if my mind.... ] 

　　[那个门徒接着说：我几乎阳痿了一辈子，我想如果我清理了我的头脑……]

　　Yes it will go! is almost always a psychological phenomenon. If you don’t love yourself what will you do with potency? It is useless! So when you don’t love yourself the body dries up. 

　　是的，它会好的！阳痿几乎总是心理现象。如果你不爱你自己，你拿那个能力做什么？它没有用处！所以当你不爱你自己，身体就干枯了。

　　tart loving and you will start flowing. Nothing to be worrie. 

　　开始爱，你会流动起来。什么也不用担心。

　　译自：OSHO The Further Shore